Tuesday, January 29, 2008

My Little Guy


We were tagged forever ago by Lilly and Mamie to list 8 things about Grant and Claire. I'm not so sure about Claire yet, but here are some things about my little guy:
1. He loves his mommy's hair. It's almost weird he likes it sooo much. He loves to rub his face with it, and if I have my hair up (even driving in the car), he'll say, "Mom, take your hair down for me." Cracks me up!
2. He's my cuddlebug. He loves being close and cuddling. I know this won't last forever, so I eat it up now.
3. He remembers EVERYTHING! I kid you not. If we go somewhere one time, he remembers everything about it...random things and will bring them up later on. Except yesterday, he forgot where he hid his shoes or at least he wasn't up to telling me.
4. He loves music and dancing. He got a CD player for Christmas and plays it every night. He knows all the words to the songs on his CDs and sings them over and over. He also knows the songs to several Diana Ross and the Supremes songs because daddy didn't have any kid cds in his car, so that's what they listened to one day, and they stuck.
5. Sleep is not his friend. He fights it at all costs and has since the day he was born.
6. He loves the Doodlebops. I posted about this several months ago, and his interest had kind of tapered off for awhile. For some reason, all of the sudden it's back. That's the only show he wants to watch, and it's soooo annoying. They are coming to town in March, and we may have to take him.
7. As loud as he can be, he does not like loud places or people. He went to the playground at Chick-Fil-A and there were lots of kids being really loud, and he had no interest in playing. At Pump It Up last week, the music and the echo freaked him out. He's going through a scared stage and anything out of the ordinary gets to him. We went to the park a few weeks ago, and there was a little boy playing on the playground that had freckles, and Grant ran from him because he didn't know what they were. It doesn't matter what it is, anything he's not used to is freaking him out right now.
8. He loves to go. If we're in the house all day, he's ready to get out and go. He's my little shopper and loves to go to Target or "Wal-Mark" with me. He also does really well at the mall...thank the Lord!!
On another note, my little guy is really struggling with his new sister. He's a bit wild, and just different. Last night, he bit her finger hard. I thought he was kissing her hand until she started screaming and I saw teeth marks. Later on, he spit on her and hit her in the head. I don't know what to do with him. I hate to keep getting onto him, but we can't let him get away with that stuff. He's struggling with going to Nanny's every day because he knows I'm staying home. This morning, he threw a huge fit to stay here. I'm just not sure what to do to help him adjust. I've said he can stay home tomorrow. I know I'll regret that by 9 am. Andy has been taking him places by himself and we've been giving him so much more attention..playing with him more, etc. but he's still acting out. It's driving me crazy, but it also hurts me. I feel like he's hurting inside and I want to help him and don't know how. I'm anxious for this to pass!

Monday, January 28, 2008

Random

Right now my sweet little girl is sleeping.. without being held. This has been a very rare occurence since she was born. The catch is that she's on her belly. All of the advice out there says never do this, but she's sleeping now and wakes up immediately when we put her on her back or side. Why does this have to be so stinkin' difficult?! Grant was the same way, but I never put him on his stomach until he was probably 8 or 9 weeks old and then he slept all night. I haven't put her on her belly at night either, but she's sleeping on me, so essentially she's on her stomach anyway. I, obviously, don't want to endanger my baby in anyway, but I do want her to sleep (and I wouldn't mind having a little too). I'm just not sure what to do.

I escaped the house yesterday for an hour and went to Sunday School with Grant. It was really nice to get out and also to see everyone. I kind of feel like I've been hiding out in a cave these last few weeks. I'm ready for warmer weather so we can be out and about. It's supposed to be 60 today, so we're going to run a few errands if I can find my way to the shower sometime soon! It will probably stay cold until right about the time I go back to work. We'll definitely make the best of the nice days we have until then.

Friday, January 25, 2008

2 weeks old

Yesterday, our baby girl turned 2 weeks old. I already can't believe how fast it's going. We went to the dr. for her 2 week check up on Weds, and she's up to 8 lbs, and 12 oz. They said she'd grown to 22 inches, but I don't know how she could've possibly grown 2 inches in 2 weeks. It's not the most accurate measurement process, so I'm guessing that someone was just off. Her head is in the 50%, unlike Grant's, whose has always been and is still in the 95-100%. Thank goodness she's the one that I had without drugs!

Yesterday, we had a photographer come to our house and take newborn shots of Claire. It was quite an experience. Since she was naked in all of the shots, she was not happy to start off with. We were trying to get her to go to sleep, which usually during the day isn't hard at all. Yesterday, she decided she'd like to stay awake all morning, so she was really bright eyed alot of the time. The other great part about her being naked... she let loose all over me, all over the photographer's bean bag, all over the floor, on her quilt, and anywhere else that you can imagine...she messed on it. I don't know how her little body had so much in it. It was a mess and hilarious! I'll post the link to the pics when they're available. For now, the photographer has posted one of she and I on her blog. You can see it at http://courtneymarler.com/blog/.

Here are a few other pictures from the last little bit:

She was really happy about this



Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Home Alone

Well, today is the first day that I've been home alone all day long. I've actually slept most of the morning, so it's not been so bad. Pookie went back to work 1/2 days last Tuesday because he was bored sitting at home, but mom was off all last week. Between her and everyone that has brought us dinner, I have gotten totally spoiled. I've decided that I need a full time cook. Not having the stress of thinking about what we're going to eat each night is really nice! Thank you so much to all of you for everything you've done for us! We really appreciate it!

Claire still has her days and nights somewhat mixed up. Last night wasn't horrible because she actually slept. The only bad part is that I held her all night long. She will sleep when she's put down during the day, but not at night. As soon as I put her down, she starts acting like she's choking. She doesn't really seem to be, so I don't know what her deal is. I elevated the head part of the mattress yesterday and she slept great all evening, but then refused to be laid down when night fell. Who knows!

Grant has also been having issues sleeping... he used to sleep until about 8 or 8:30, but lately, he's waking up around 5:30 or 5:45 and yelling, "mom, what are you doing?" Usually I'm awake and feeding the baby, and he comes and lays beside us and tries to rub all over her. He was really upset when daddy took him to nanny's this morning. He knew that I was staying here, and he wanted to stay too. I felt horrible, but think that at least, for now, it's best that he go over there part of every day to keep his routine up for when I go back to work and also to give me time to bond with the baby and also to get some much needed sleep during her naps. Otherwise, I'll be running on fumes.

Lyla tagged me to tell 8 things about Grant and Claire, but I need to wait until I'm thinking a little clearer to do that. Maybe that'll be the next post.

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

How She Came into the World

Well, here's the story....sorry for the delay. I've been a little sleep deprived! Wednesday I had contractions all day at work. They weren't terribly strong and they were 15-20 minutes apart. I had a feeling we'd be going to the hospital that night or early the next morning, so Wednesday night, I did everything at the house (laundry, dishes, etc.). I laid down with Grant Weds night and went to sleep for about 30 minutes before coming to get in my own bed. That's when they started getting stronger. They were still bearable, but getting worse. The bad thing was that the contractions were still pretty spaced out (15 minutes or so). Around 3 am, they got to 7 minutes apart, so I got up and took a shower and got everything ready to go. I called my mom around 5:30 and asked her to come over and get Grant ready to go to school because we were going to have to go to the hospital. We were just waiting for that magic 5 minute apart mark. They got to that point between 6:30 am and 7:30, but every time I'd sit down, they'd space back out to 10-15 minutes. I called the dr. and they told me to come into the office and they'd check me out.

We got to the dr. around 9 and they checked me and said she thought it was very early labor, but not enough yet to be admitted. She actually told me to go home and relax or go to the movie... obviously she was underestimating how bad these contractions hurt! She thought they were Braxton Hicks, but I knew otherwise. When they're the real thing, they're totally different than all those "practice" ones! Anyway, so we left, stopped at Target and bought Grant a present from baby sister. I had 4 contractions while we were there, but we still headed on home. I got home and when I sat down, they'd space out, but when I was standing up or walking around, I was having major pain every 4-6 minutes. We waited until around 2 and then decided to go back. I was hurting too badly to stay home and wait anymore even though every time I sat down, they got further apart.

We arrived at the hospital around 2:30 and went straight to Labor & Delivery as we'd been instructed. Upon entering, they told me to sit down and they'd have someone come and get me to take me to OB Assessment to decide if I was really in labor. I walked downstairs and had several contractions on the way down. They got me in a bed , hooked me up to the monitors, and checked me. She said I was at a 4, which I was that morning also. Heck, I was almost at a 4 at my appt on Tues, so very little progression. They said they'd leave me on the monitors for an hour or so and see what happened and then check me again.

So I just laid there during what they called a code yellow, tornado alert waiting on contractions. I had some that were super super painful, but again they were like 10 -15 minutes apart and apparently didn't look all that strong on the monitor. They checked me again an hour later (around 3:30) and said that maybe I was a bit more effaced. They were contemplating sending me home again. I was really having lots of pain.... think just on the verge of screaming but instead, squeezing the life out of whoever's hand was closer. My mom kindly went out in the hallway and told the lady that we were not leaving.. that my dr. had offered to induce already and she just needed to call her and get the go ahead to move me upstairs. Guess what.. the nurse did just that. She told my dr. she thought that if they'd break my water that we might just have the baby by midnight.. little did she know!

So, a few minutes later, they put me in a wheelchair and took me back to L&D. I had major contractions in the hall on the way there and getting into the bed was almost impossible because every time I moved I was in tremendous pain. The nurses came in the room and started asking questions, etc. but all of their computers were down. I just kept yelling that I needed medicine (an epidural). They got my IV in after sticking the needle in and then searching for the vein, during which I thought I might die. She explained that usually before the epidural they had to draw blood and wait for results, etc. but she could tell I wanted it badly so asked if I had any negative health history and then agreed to go ahead and do it. The CRNA came into the room with his little cart and I yelled that I was feeling lots of pressure. No one upstairs had checked me yet because 1. they'd just checked me downstairs and 2. we'd literally been in the room like 10 minutes.

When I said the magic word pressure, she immediately checked me and told me I was done! Then, they informed me there was no time for an epidural because it wouldn't take effect before the baby came. If you've read any of my previous posts, you know this is not what I had planned. I had a very painful labor with Grant (but did get an epidural before delivery) and I had absolutely no intention of doing it again. I totally freaked out when this girl told me that I was getting ready to have natural childbirth. Crying, etc. This is not what I wanted. I literally thought I was dying, at which point, the nurse said, "no, you just want to." I guess it was pretty bad, because then the anesthetist offered to do a spinal block (they informed me later they NEVER do this anymore for normal deliveries). They were trying to tell me that I wouldn't be able to feel anything, get up for a long time, etc. but I did not care at all. He told me to roll over to put it in and when I did, my water broke and the baby just started coming. There is no dr. in the room at this point. I think it was total chaos, although truthfully, it's all kind of foggy. The next thing I know, a dr. I've never seen before walks in and says, " hi, I'm Dr. _______, I was in the hallway, and I'm going to deliver your baby." And, out she came.

The whole experience was crazy! Not only did my dr. not deliver the baby. It wasn't even someone from her practice. Just another OB that happened to be in the hall at the time. I don't think Pook had any clue what was going on. Mom said she turned around and just told him to sit down because he was as white as a ghost. My mom never even took her jacket off before the baby was born.. that's how quick it all was. Pook was so out of it they asked him to cut the cord, and he just said no. So, mom cut it. Crazy. They called the nurse down in assessment and told her the story. She, in turn, called my dr. to relay the story to her. The nurse later called me to apologize for almost sending my home. All I can say is thank goodness they didn't or baby Claire would've been born on I-40 or in the parking lot... not something I want to think about.

But, I guess my body is no worse for the wear. I didn't feel any different afterward than I did the first time, so I guess you should never under estimate what your body can do. I just know I never want to do that again. I apologized to my delivery nurse, who was my nurse again on Saturday. She, herself, had two children naturally so she just kept telling me it was ok and I could do it. When I apologized, she said it was no big deal because natural childbirth is something you really have to have set in your mind to do and being told you have no choice as it's happening is totally different.

So, here's a picture right after she was born. She's already growing like a weed. We went to the dr. today and she's gained 8 oz. since we left the hospital, already up past her birth weight to 8 lbs. 8 oz. The dr. told me not to leave the house until the end of March... seriously. We're coming up on 1 week old, and I'm already going stir crazy. So we'll see how that goes. She's still not sleeping at night, but I'm hoping this will improve very soon!



Sunday, January 13, 2008

Sarah Claire Summar


Well, as Alicia posted, baby Claire arrived on Thursday afternoon. After I updated on Thursday morning saying we were heading to the hospital my contractions actually slowed waaaay down, but were really really painful when I had one. We went into the dr. and then they sent us back home. I'll post the whole "birth story" a little later, but we didn't end up getting back to the hospital until after 2 pm on Thursday and not into a room until around 3:45 and she was born at 3:55 p.m. It's definitely not the delivery I'd been planning, but I'm thankful it's over and that she's here and healthy.

We got home last night and Grant is doing pretty well with her. He loves her and wants to know where she is all of the time. He's demanding a bit more attention than normal, so we're all trying to cope. She has her days and nights a little confused. Hopefully, we can work that out in the next few days. I'll definitely post more of the story later and more pictures, but here are just a few from the last couple of days.



Meeting Baby Sister for the 1st time!

We're Home

Right after her first bath at home.
More to come soon!

Friday, January 11, 2008

Baby Claire has arrived!

Well, She's Here.......

Hi to you all. I am Alicia Mitchell, one of Chesley's friends, updating this for her since she's a little busy. :o)

Sarah Claire Summar was born in a spectacular fashion (without the help of any modern medicine-much to Chesley's dismay) Thursday, January 10th at 3:55 pm. She weighed in at 8 lbs and 4 oz and was 20 inches long. She has a head full of beautiful black hair. She is an absolute doll! Grant was able to visit her just hours after her birth and loved his new little baby sister. Mom & baby are doing great today. We are all so thankful for such a wonderful blessing.

Thursday, January 10, 2008

About that Time

Well, we've been up all night waiting for these contractions to get closer, and they finally are. We should be headed to the hospital in the next little bit. Will update when we can. Wish us LUCK!!

Wednesday, January 9, 2008

Something You Didn't Know About Me

I work at Target and so does Andy, and sometimes Wal-Mart... at least according to Grant. I'm not sure why he thinks this but for some reason if you ask him where Mommy or Daddy works, the answer is always Target or "Wal-Mark." It totally cracks me up. He's even said that he's going to work, and when you ask him where, the answer is always Target. I love the place...don't get me wrong, but I have no desire to work there and usually when I go, it's on my lunch breaks without Grant. Who knows why that's what he says.. he's been to my office several times, but I guess Target is much more exciting to him.

And no, still no baby. I had contractions last night for several hours that got as close as 14 minutes together, but then I fell asleep so I guess they stopped. I slept pretty well, and I'm feeling pretty good today so maybe she just knew I needed a little rejuvenation and today is the day. I really thought you were supposed to go early with your 2nd one, not later. Grant was right on time on his due date. Although the idea of going into labor at work is not something I relish, I could really care less at this point! I'm so tired of feeling my stomach sit on my lap and tucking something underneath it, that I'm about ready to try anything. Other than that, I feel great! Here's to hoping I'll be updating again soon on my way out the door!!!

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

Due Date!!

But no baby yet! I was all geared up last night because I had some pretty painful contractions. There was no rhyme or rhythm to them though, so basically I was just up most of the night wondering if this was it. I went to the dr. this morning and my bp was slightly elevated, but not concerning. For those of you that need the details, I'm dilated to a little over 3, so those contractions are doing their thing. She said she thinks I'm right on the verge of going into labor. We scheduled the induction for next Monday, January 14th if she hasn't come on her own before then. I feel confident we'll have a baby before then!

Monday, January 7, 2008

Anxious

I'm to the point where labor (and more importantly, when it will start) is all I can think about! If someone could just say it will start on Weds. midday, I'd be all good with that. It's so hard to just go on anticipating that every minute. We can't make any plans to do anything else, and so I feel like I'm just sitting and waiting. I was really hoping to go on my own before my appt. tomorrow because I do not want to have to set an induction date, and I know that will be what we do. Even if my blood pressure is normal, she will want to set a date...even if it's early the following week. That's my plan right now is to say sometime around the 14th or 15th if she'll let me go that long. At my last appt., she hammered home that there really is nothing left to gain by continuing to drag this out except misery on my part. I'm really not that miserable though, so the plan is still to hold out. My prediction is that I'll go into labor tonight in the middle of the BCS Championship game. My husband isn't really a huge fan of either team, but that doesn't mean he won't watch it with little attention on anything else. I'd be ok with that though just to get out of picking a "birth day." I can't believe I'm going to post these pictures of my 40 week belly, but here ya go:




No stretch marks yet.. if I get one this last week, I'll be really ticked!

I just have to post this picture that I took of little girl's closet. We have been absolutely overwhelmed by our friends and family who have purchased and/or handed stuff down to us. So much so that I already have over 2 huge tubs of stuff in the attic to get down as she grows. This is what is just in the closet you can't even see all of it in this picture) and I only put through 9 months in there, and the drawers in her dresser are totally full too! She will never be able to wear all of this, and what am I supposed to buy now?! You know I gotta have an excuse to buy all of that cute little girl stuff! Notice all the tags..I haven't washed anything that was purchased new! Still not convinced that it's a girl. All of Grant's stuff was washed right after his shower, but not this time!

In other news.. kind of related to buying the little girl stuff, I have a new addiction. It is finding online coupon codes. If you do any shopping online, make sure you look for them first. One site that I've had a lot of luck with is retailmenot.com. People put coupon codes on them for all kinds of sites and they have ratings that tell you whether they worked for them, etc. I'm a little obsessed with them. I bought something the other day (shoes b/c they're still fun prego or not) and was determined to find codes and ended up with 3. I'm hooked. I did this for several Christmas purchases too. It's much easier to justify shopping when you get a great deal, right?!
I'll try to update if I go into labor, but don't know if we'll be able to post pics until we get home from the hospital. I will try to get someone to post the specifics though. My husband is not the most technically inclined and has no idea about this whole blogging thing, so we'll see!

Thursday, January 3, 2008

Still Waiting

I keep thinking that today will be the day...everyday! I'm ready to meet this little one. This pregnancy has absolutely flown by. I think I've said that a million times already, but it's so true. Having a busy 2 year old this time around has definitely left little time to think about much else. Thankfully, it's been a fairly easy and comfortable pregnancy and knowing that it will probably be my last, I keep trying to cherish every day. It's hard though! My right hip has started hurting really badly these last few days and the bathroom trips are becoming more frequent through the night. I'm walking like I'm 95! Sleep is not something I'm getting much of, but I guess I might as well get used to that again anyway. I went back to the dr. yesterday and she said she will induce me anytime I'm ready. I am really trying to let nature take it's course, but the offer is getting more and more tempting by the day. I had so much pain last time that setting up a time to start that pain is hard to do. As I have said before, I do not plan to experience that this time, but knowing that you can't always control it is the scary part. My blood pressure was quite a bit higher than normal yesterday, and she's told me to monitor it. If it's consistently high, I'm supposed to call and schedule the induction. Last night, mom checked it at home and it was totally normal....maybe I was just nervous at the appt. Who knows! Anyway, she said she's on call this weekend if I decide I want to come in then. Otherwise, I go back next Tuesday.

Last night, Grant begged to lay in the bed with me and I caved thinking that pretty soon he won't be the only one to cuddle with. It's so hard when you're tired and uncomfortable to try and remember to cherish these last few days with him as an only child! He is usually in rare form at night, and last night was no exception. He does pretty much anything and everything to keep himself awake. I have never seen someone fight sleep like he does, plus there's the hair thing. He finally went to sleep probably around 10:30 or maybe 11.. I was in and out of consciousness myself. I didn't actually make it to moving him into his bed until 2:30 or so. It was a long night, but he's worth it.

The kid totally cracks me up. The sentences and phrases he's saying now are hilarious, and you really have to be careful what is said in front of him. You might say something and have no idea that he absorbed it until it comes back out of his mouth 3 or 4 days (or longer) later. He's also quite the comedian (like his dad) so the next few years will probably be really interesting (and embarrassing for us until he learns about things we don't do/say in public). I find myself laughing at things he says and does when I really shouldn't be, but it's so hard to contain! One of my favorite things he says to pretty much everyone right now is, "What name is you/her/him?" He says this to EVERYONE EVERYWHERE! He is so interested in talking to people everywhere we go, so we don't meet many strangers anymore. This is totally not my personality, but it's been fun watching him interact.

I'm still not sure he totally realizes what he's in for with this baby, but I hope the adjustment isn't too bad on any of us. I'm a bit petrified of the whole situation honestly. I'm ready not to be pregnant and to see this baby, but the impact that it will make in our home and on our family is something that is unpredictable and hard to prepare yourself (or Grant) for. I'm just hoping for a smooth transition. I know that people do it everyday, but it's still scary when it's you!